Saach kaho suna laeho sabhai
Jin Prem Keeo tin hee Prabh paaeeiou.
The line above is from one of the Nitnem Banis. In this line, Guruji calls upon all of us and says:
“Please listen, all yee people, to this eternal truth: Only the one who really understands the PURE DIVINE LOVE of GOD and manifests it in his life will realise GOD in his life.”
The truth is that PURE UNCONDITIONAL LOVE is the ONLY positive force in the world. This love is the cause of all good things happening in our world and the lack of it is the cause of all negative things happening in this world.
But in Gurbani we are made AWARE of the fact that LOVE does also exists in its negative form in humanity. This happens when love deteriorates and becomes what is called MOH or ATTACHMENT.
While pure unconditional love is a virtue, attachment or moh on the other hand is a vice. It is called a vice because moh often leads to possessiveness, jealousy, hatred and a struggle for power in many relationships. Guruji cautions us against this negative form of love.
In our worldly relationships, husband-wife, parents-children, friends etc, we normally depict this kind of selfish love that deteriorates very quickly into possessiveness.
Example: Parents often hold children in bondage demanding obedience and respect in return for bringing them up. The same thing happens between couples. The dominant partner will try to control the other party.
In the PURE DIVINE LOVE that radiates from GOD there is no possessiveness at all. This PURE LOVE gives the other person the total freedom to grow and become a complete being.
Every human being needs and desires this freedom. PURE LOVE not only allows for this freedom but also strengthens the freedom. Anything that destroys freedom is not love. LOVE and freedom are two wings of the same bird. Pure unconditional love gives one the freedom, and liberates him. Once a person is totally free, he feels grateful to the person who has given him his freedom.
Possessiveness, on the other hand, denies this freedom. This becomes the cause of conflict in many relationships. All growth needs love but the kind that is pure and unconditional . If love comes with conditions then growth cannot be total.
Pure unconditional love is the virtue of God.
Attachments or moh on the other being a vice and having arisen out of ego leads to other negative traits like selfishness, greed, anger, hatred etc.
To attain liberation we have to learn how to transform our moh that holds us in bondage to the pure unconditional love of God that is liberating to the spirit.
Surinder Kaur Sohan Singh is a Malaysia-based Gurbani enthusiast. This is an edited version of her regular articles shared within a circle of fellow Sikhi seekers. The articles appear on Mondays and Thursdays.
* This is the opinion of the writer, organisation or publication and does not necessarily represent the views of Asia Samachar.
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