It’s been 3 days since, and the scene of the father crying at his son’s bed then slowly tucking in the boy’s teddy bear is still lingering in my mind. Performances like this are so rare. When it forces the watcher to empathise with the protagonist, to imagine being in those shoes, it can change some circuitry in your mindset.
Netflix’s limited series ‘Adolescence’ is raking rave reviews for the performances and the questions it asks the passive audience. As a father of 3 daughters, my first impulsive reaction was sadness and anger that a 13 year old boy could murder his schoolmate, a pretty and popular girl of the same age, in such a cold blooded manner. (No spoiler alerts here because this is established right at the beginning of the show).
By episode 4, which is the last hour long episode, you get to learn how tragic this murder is to those around the murdered and the murderer as well. The boy was brought up in a normal typical loving family without the cliched abusive father or without absent parents that so many horrific crimes are usually attributed to. Angry young men and angry adolescent boys who commit crimes typically come from poverty stricken and broken homes, prevalent drug abuse and always gang related. It was nothing of the sort for this boy and his family.
This wasn’t a ‘whodunit’ but rather it was produced layered like an onion, asking the ‘why he did it’ as each layer is peeled away. In a couple of interviews, Stephen Graham (who was one of the actors and writers of the show) articulates his belief that the phrase ‘it takes a village to raise a child’ is applicable for both children doing well in society, and also for children on the other far side of the spectrum where their destructiveness does damage in society. Typically, we very quickly try to blame the murderer if old enough, or the parents who brought up the murderer if young enough.
But here, in the show, you get to see all the critical building blocks of the young boy’s mentality that drove him to do that heinous act of violence. His friends. His school. The murdered girl’s attitude towards him. His teachers. And finally, the dark clouds of social media, where the girl’s taunting of him was for all to see, played a massive part of his mental and emotional makeup. This was the scariest part for me as a father of kids the same age as the boy. A single emoji can mean something so different to us and to the children.
It is impossible to monitor what our children are consuming on social media. The many platforms online are making it easy for literally anybody to have the ability to influence the thoughts and ideas of adults like us any time. This risk is almost tenfold for our children. You might have heard of influencers like Andrew Tate, considered a hero for speaking his mind to many young men around the world. His views are considered extreme toxic masculinity, preaching to young men and boys about their superiority and entitlement as males compared to the fairer sex. To the point that it’s not bad to be abusive, harmful and even kill another human being as long as it’s a female. This boy in the show is a product of this growing mentality.
Compassion is an innate and natural part of being a human. We are born with it. Compassion makes us humane and human. With conditioning, we are all at risk of losing this very basic attribute of ours. That is why it is so easy to justify violent and malicious actions when we blame it on race and religion. The toxic masculine beliefs of the boy is another excuse of losing his compassion and humanity.
As part of the village raising our boys, I have a duty as an uncle or a friend to make sure we’re teaching our boys and girls to avoid losing their compassion. Boys who grow up to be men must learn to accept their sisters and friends to be equal as humans, to treat them with respect, to be able to accept rejection when approached, and to just be simple gentlemen. As Sikhs, this duty is even more vital because these are fundamental teachings of our Guru.
If you have the time, try to watch the Netflix series with your boys and even your girls, and have that conversation about what they think and if they can relate to what the characters are going through. That, I really believe, is the first step to working towards keeping our children’s compassion and humanity intact.
Jagdesh Singh, a Kuala Lumpur-based executive with a US multinational company, is a father of three girls who are as opinionated as their mother
* This is the opinion of the writer, organisation or publication and does not necessarily represent the views of Asia Samachar.
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| Entry: 22 March 2025; Updated: 27 March 2025 | Source: Family
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With deep sorrow, we share the passing of our beloved Sardar Harjeet Singh, who left for his heavenly abode on Thursday, 20th March 2025. His sudden departure has left a void in our hearts, but we take solace in Waheguru’s Hukam, knowing that his soul has merged with the Eternal Light.
Sardar Harjeet Singh was a loving son, brother, father, uncle and grand-uncle, a kind soul and a guiding light to all who knew him. His wisdom, generousity and unwavering faith will always be cherished. He leaves behind his beloved family, relatives and friends.
Parents: Late Sardar Gurnam Singh Dhanoa & Mata Balwinder Kaur
FINAL RESPECTS AND CREMATION Shamshaan Bhoomi Hall, Jalan Loke Yew Crematorium Sunday, March 23 2025 From 2.00 pm onwards with Sukhmani Sahib Path followed by cremation
PATH DA BHOG Gurdwara Sahib Subang Sunday, 30 March 2025 4.00 pm – 6.00 pm, followed by Rehraas and Guru ka Langgar.
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Mata Bachan Kaur was a nurturing soul who dedicated her life to the well-being and spiritual growth of her family. After the passing of her husband, she continued to lead with unwavering resilience, embodying the spirit of Chardi Kala. Her sharp acumen, tempered by humility, was a reflection of her deep connection to Gurbani. She lived through the ebb and flow of life, facing challenges with unwavering faith and a relentless spirit to contribute and grow. Her circle of friends within the Gurdwara community was vast, and her kindness extended to many women in need. She offered practical support and a compassionate ear, leaving an indelible mark on the lives she touched.
With thanks to the dedicated care by: Jagdeep Kaur Victoria Sustento
SEHAJ PATH DA BHOG will be held on 31 March 2025 (Monday) at Gurdwara Sahib Titiwangsa 9am Sehaj Path Da Bhog followed by Kirtan 11.30am Antim Ardaas and Guru Ka langgar thereafter
(There will also be Rehraas and Kirtan daily till Saturday, March 9, at the residence. Add: 24, Jalan Bukit Maluri 6, Taman Bukit Maluri, Kepong, 52100, KL)
We humbly request your presence to join us in remembering her virtues in prayer. Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa, Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh.
| Entry: 21 March 2025; Updated: 25 March 2025 | Source: Family
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Perhaps more than any other issue, the question of the authorship, authenticity and authority of the Dasam Granth is one of the most controversial and divisive in the Sikh Panth. Some might argue that unless a resolution is found, this debate could ultimately lead to a formal schism, creating two distinct Panths: one that affords sole supreme authority to the Guru Granth Sahib and another that also grants significant authority to the Dasam Granth, even placing it on a manji alongside the Guru Granth Sahib.
It is conceivable that in the near future, we may witness the emergence of two types of Gurdwaras worldwide: those that conduct parkash (ceremonial installation) of both Guru Granth Sahib and Dasam Granth and those that limit parkash to Guru Granth Sahib alone. If this occurs, it would be a deeply unfortunate and dark day for the Panth, further exacerbating internal divisions and weakening the unity of the Sikh community. The only way to avoid such a split is for scholars and religious leaders to put aside personal biases and work collaboratively towards a resolution. Tragically, there is little evidence at present of willingness on both sides to engage in an open-minded and scholarly approach to this issue.
As a follower of the Panth Parvanat Sikh Rehit Maryada, I have personally taken what I believe to be a middle-ground position. I acknowledge that certain compositions within the Dasam Granth align with the teachings of the Guru Granth Sahib and can reasonably be attributed to Guru Gobind Singh Ji. However, I also recognise the possibility that, given Guru Ji’s patronage of literature and poetry, he may have acted as a collector of various writings, some of which may have been later incorporated into the larger Granth.
I do not claim that the Sikh Rehit Maryada is a perfect or complete document, but it remains the best attempt made by the Panth to establish a baseline for unity (ekta). Some critics argue that historically, the Sikh tradition has been diverse, encompassing groups such as Nanak Panthis, Nirmalas, Akali Nihangs, Sanatan Sikhs, Satnamis, Sikligars, Vanjaras, various Taksals, Sampardas, Missionary Colleges, and Jathas. Their argument suggests that the concept of a central code and an overarching institutional structure was largely a British colonial construct designed to manage the Sikh community.
On the other hand, proponents of the Tat Khalsa ideology contend that the Singh Sabha Movement of the late 19th and early 20th centuries played a pivotal role in reclaiming the true teachings of the Gurus, advocating for the idea of “One Granth, One Panth.” This debate is deeply rooted in Sikh history and institutional development and has been extensively explored by scholars such as Dr. Ganda Singh, Prof. Harjot Oberoi, and Dr. J.S. Grewal.
Coming back to the Dasam Granth, I sought to examine both perspectives by asking Chat GPT to offer ten arguments in favour and ten arguments against its attribution to Guru Gobind Singh Ji. I know Chat GPT has its own biases and is not a completely reliable source, but still, it produced some helpful points for consideration. I am reproducing these below as I believe they will be beneficial for those who, like me, have limited knowledge of the Dasam Granth but are genuinely interested in seeking a well-informed resolution.
10 reasons why some Sikhs argue that the Dasam Granth should not be accepted as the composition of Guru Gobind Singh:
1. Inconsistency with Guru Granth Sahib
Guru Gobind Singh instructed Sikhs to follow Guru Granth Sahib as the sole scripture and spiritual authority. Many compositions in Dasam Granth, such as Charitropakhyan, contain themes that contrast sharply with the spiritual and moral teachings of Guru Granth Sahib.
Charitropakhyan consists of over 400 stories, many of which describe explicit sexual themes, deception, and violence. Critics argue that such content is inappropriate for a Guru and contradicts Sikh values of high moral conduct.
3. Lack of Historical Evidence of Compilation by Guru Gobind Singh
There is no definitive historical record proving that Guru Gobind Singh personally compiled or dictated the Dasam Granth. Unlike Guru Granth Sahib, which was compiled by Guru Arjan and later finalized by Guru Gobind Singh, no similar documentation exists for Dasam Granth.
4. Multiple Versions & Alterations
The Dasam Granth has multiple versions with varying lengths and content, leading to questions about its authenticity. The original writings of Guru Gobind Singh, if any, would not have been subject to such variations.
5. Absence of Mention in Early Sikh Records
Key historical Sikh sources such as Bhai Gurdas Ji’s Vaars and Bansavalinama do not mention Guru Gobind Singh composing the Dasam Granth. If it was truly his work, it would have been widely recognized and preserved in early Sikh literature.
6. Contradiction to Sikh Egalitarianism
Some sections of Dasam Granth (e.g., Brahm Kavach) contain strong Hindu mythological influences and references to caste-based hierarchies, which contradict Guru Gobind Singh’s mission of eradicating caste discrimination in Sikh society.
7. Hindu Mythological Influence
The Dasam Granth includes compositions like Chandi di Var and Krishna Avtar, which focus on Hindu deities such as Durga, Vishnu, and Krishna. Sikhism, as established by Guru Nanak, rejects idol worship and Hindu rituals, making such writings controversial.
8. Contradictions in Language and Style
Linguistic analysis shows that some compositions in Dasam Granth use a different writing style, terminology, and Persianized vocabulary not commonly used by Guru Gobind Singh. This raises doubts about whether a single author composed the entire text.
9. Bachittar Natak’s Autobiographical Issues
Bachittar Natak, often claimed to be Guru Gobind Singh’s autobiography, contains historical inaccuracies and self-praising language, which is uncharacteristic of Sikh Gurus, who emphasized humility. It also suggests that Guru Gobind Singh was the reincarnation of Hindu sages, contradicting Sikh philosophy.
10. Guru Gobind Singh’s Final Directive
Before his passing, Guru Gobind Singh did not instruct Sikhs to follow Dasam Granth. Instead, he declared Guru Granth Sahib as the eternal Guru. If Dasam Granth were meant to be an authoritative scripture, he would have made its status clear.
10 reasons why some Sikhs argue that the Dasam Granth should be accepted as the composition of Guru Gobind Singh:
1. Direct Historical References to Guru Gobind Singh’s Authorship
Several historical sources, including Bhai Mani Singh’s writings, Bhatt Vahis, and Rehatnamas, refer to Guru Gobind Singh as the author of the compositions found in Dasam Granth.
2. Internal References within the Text
Many compositions in Dasam Granth explicitly mention that they were written by Guru Gobind Singh himself, such as in Bachittar Natak, where the author describes his own life journey, battles, and divine mission.
3. Support from the Nihang and Traditional Sikh Orders
Sikh warrior groups like the Nihangs and Taksal have historically considered Dasam Granth as the work of Guru Gobind Singh and have preserved its recitation as part of Sikh tradition.
4. Inclusion in Early Sikh Practices
Parts of Dasam Granth, such as Jaap Sahib, Tav Prasad Savaiye, and Benti Chaupai, are included in the daily Nitnem prayers of Sikhs, as mandated by Guru Gobind Singh himself.
5. Martial and Warrior Spirit of Khalsa
The Dasam Granth emphasizes the martial philosophy and warrior spirit that Guru Gobind Singh instilled in the Khalsa. Compositions like Chandi di Var and Zafarnama encourage Sikhs to stand against tyranny and injustice.
6. Preservation at the Five Takhts:
Patna Sahib, and Hazur Sahib (historical Sikh shrines) have long accepted the Dasam Granth as Guru Gobind Singh’s composition. It is recited at these places, further supporting its authenticity. There is historical evidence that it was also parkash at the other Takhts which are now under the control of SGPC.
7. Compositions Used in Sikh Ceremonies
Several prayers from Dasam Granth, including Chaupai Sahib, are used in Amrit Sanchar (baptism ceremony) and Ardas (daily Sikh prayer), indicating that it has been part of Sikh tradition for centuries.
8. Zafarnama’s Historical Accuracy
Zafarnama, a Persian letter written by Guru Gobind Singh to Mughal Emperor Aurangzeb, is part of Dasam Granth. Historians have verified its authenticity, strengthening the argument that other compositions may also be Guru Gobind Singh’s work.
9. Distinct Writing Style Matching Guru Gobind Singh
The linguistic style, poetic structure, and themes in Dasam Granth closely match Guru Gobind Singh’s known compositions, such as Zafarnama and Jaap Sahib, reinforcing the idea that he wrote them.
10. No Other Credible Author Identified
Despite debates, no historical evidence exists to attribute the Dasam Granth to any other author. Given its strong military and spiritual themes, it aligns with Guru Gobind Singh’s mission and legacy.
WAY FORWARD
Lastly, as someone who deeply respects all world literature, including the writings of various religious traditions, I believe it is essential to engage with differing viewpoints in a scholarly and reasonable manner. While we may disagree with certain texts or reject specific arguments, our response should be grounded in intellect and respect. Resorting to emotion or abusive language is a sign of weakness and uncertainty, only serving to create further division and antagonism.
Hence, if you wish to share your thoughts on this matter, I encourage you to do so in the spirit of learning, as exemplified by Guru Nanak, who said: “So long as you are alive in this world, you should speak and listen.”
Gurnam Singh is an academic activist dedicated to human rights, liberty, equality, social and environmental justice. He is an Associate Professor of Sociology at University of Warwick, UK. He can be contacted at Gurnam.singh.1@warwick.ac.uk
* This is the opinion of the writer and does not necessarily represent the views of Asia Samachar.
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SARDAR PIKAN SINGH BRIANA S/O LATE HARBAN SINGH BRIANA & LATE SWARAN KAUR
1946 – 2025
(Rawang – Roda Group)
Village: Kalra, Gardiwala, Hoshiarpur Punjab
It’s with deep sorrow that we announce the passing of Sardar Pikan Singh Briana on Sunday, 16 March 2025, leaving behind beloved wife Sardarni Gurdev Kaur.
Children: 1.Baljit Kaur & family 2.Jasbeer Singh & family 3.Sulinder Kaur & family 4.Rajit Singh 5.Jermit Kaur & family
Grandchildren, Brother, Sisters, Nephews, Nieces, Relatives and Friends.
AKHAND PATH Friday, 21 March (starts at 11am) – Sunday, 23 March Gurdwara Sahib Nanaksar, Serendah, Selangor Path da Bhog will be 10am to 12pm on Sunday, 23 March Guru ka Langgar will be served through out the prayers at all days.
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First time ever, Subang Mini Samelan in April 2025
NOTE FROM THE ORGANISING TEAM:
Subang Mini Samelan
Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh
Join us for three days of fun, learning, and community bonding sessions. Jointly organized by GSS, PTA PEC Subang ,Subang Sikh Youth Club as well as Subang Sis and Bro, we are excited to host our first-ever Samelan! Don’t miss out on this exciting opportunity—mark your calendars and be part of the celebration. See you there!
Dates: 4th-6th April 2025 (Friday- Sunday)
Venue: Gurdwara Sahib Subang
Time: 5pm on 4th April 2025
Age Group 4 – 17 years old Participant 18 – 23 years old Youth Sewadar 23 years and above Sewadar
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The building that formerly housed the Shanghai gurdwara – Photo: Dr Jasjit Singh
By Jasjit Singh | China |
As many of you know, I have this thing about visiting Sikh Gurdwaras wherever I go …
Seeing pictures of the former Shanghai Sikh Gurdwara I remember thinking, I’d love to visit one day …
I have been in China for the past week in my role as Pro Dean International for the Faculty of Arts, Humanities and Cultures at the University of Leeds. Thanks to meeting a Leeds alumni who had recently visited Sis Ganj Gurdwara in Delhi and who spent time locating the Gurdwara, today I visited the former Sikh Gurdwara of Shanghai and even got to go inside…
This meant so much.
Jasjit Singh is a Professor of Religion and Global Engagement at the University of Leeds. In 2023, he was appointed as the inaugural Visiting Professor in Sikh Studies at the National University of Singapore (NUS) and is currently co-chair of the AAR Sikh Studies Unit. The article was adapted from his LinkedIn posting.
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Cheryl and Dillon with their parents Karina and Pola
By Dr Pola Singh | Experience |
There are some people who walk into your life and leave an imprint so deep that no force on earth can erase it. My wife, my best friend, my lifelong partner Karina Kaur (or Rina for short) is that person. From the moment our paths crossed in 1971, the course of my life was forever changed. What started as a chance encounter between a kampung boy with big dreams and a small-town girl from Segamat at the Fourth College of the University of Malaya (UM) soon blossomed into a beautiful partnership built on love, respect, and unwavering support.
As I reflect on 54 years of friendship and 48 years of marriage, my heart swells with gratitude for the incredible journey we have shared. Life, in all its twists and turns, has tested us in ways we never imagined. We have faced soaring highs and endured daunting lows, but through it all, we have emerged stronger, hand in hand, heart to heart.
We built a life together, raised two remarkable children, Cheryl and Dillon, and now, our hearts overflow with the love of our two precious grandchildren, Hannah and Nathan. They are the embodiment of our love, and watching them grow has been one of life’s greatest joys.
Looking back, there were moments that truly defined us as a couple. I will never forget those challenging years when I pursued my doctorate at the University of Alabama—four long years of financial strain, late nights, and sacrifices. But through every struggle, Rina was my anchor. Her unwavering belief in me, her ability to shoulder responsibilities with grace, and her sheer determination to see our family through those tough times made all the difference. We didn’t just survive; we triumphed. And we did it together.
Even as the years have passed, our relationship remains fresh, dynamic, and full of laughter. We still engage in deep conversations, debate politics, and share our dreams, just like two newlyweds eager to discover each other’s minds. Rina, my personal ‘walking medical encyclopaedia,’ is always the first person I turn to for advice, guidance, and wisdom. Her intellect, strength, and compassion continue to amaze me every single day.
But perhaps what moves me most is the way she loves—selflessly, completely, and unconditionally. When our son Dillon had to undergo surgery in December 2024, Rina once again showed the depth of her devotion. She was his unwavering source of comfort, ensuring that no detail was overlooked—from keeping vigil by his bedside to preparing nourishing meals and lifting his spirits during that emotionally and physically draining period. She was his rock, just as she has always been mine.
They say love is not about finding the perfect person but about seeing an imperfect person perfectly. Rina, you are my perfection, my home, my heart. You are the treasure of the Pola family; the woman whose presence makes life infinitely richer. If I had to choose just one friend, one confidante, one partner for all of eternity—it would be you, a thousand times over.
At my 75th Birthday celebration, I paid tribute to my dear wife and played the beautiful song by Jim Reeves, “I Love You for a Hundred Thousand Reasons, but Most of All, I Love You Because You Are You.” And I truly meant every word I said. That song encapsulates everything I feel for Rina—love, admiration, and gratitude for simply being the extraordinary woman that she is.
As I stand here in my senior years, looking at the life we have built, I know without a doubt that I am a blessed man. To have you beside me is to have won life’s greatest lottery. My glass is neither half full nor half empty—it is overflowing with love, joy, and gratitude for the woman who has been my pillar of strength, my hero, my everything.
Rina, you have touched my life in ways you will never fully know. I only pray that we continue this beautiful journey, hand in hand, till the very end of our days. For as long as I live, I will remain forever grateful to you.
Dr Pola Singh, who retired as Maritime Institute of Malaysia director-general in 2011, is also the author of ‘Uphill — The Journey of a Sikh-Chinese Kampung Boy’
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It is with profound grief & deep sorrow that we announce the passing of Paritam Kaur A/P Harchand Singh, who has returned to her heavenly above on 19th March 2025 leaving behind beloved husband, children, granchildren, family & relatives.
Date: 19th March 2025, Wednesday Time: 8.00pm onwards
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