By Rupinder Kaur | OPINION | UK |
In Sikhi, we have the concept of ‘Sangat’. The word itself has its origins in the Sanskrit word ‘sangh’, which means company, fellowship and association. In Sikhi we believe that your spiritual journey is enlightened by keeping company with like-minded individuals. The same translates to the professional world and life in general. If you want to be successful seek out people you consider to be successful role models and spend time with them.
I remember reading David Walsh’s brilliant book 7 Deadly Sins: My Pursuit of Lance Armstrong, some years ago. I was immediately stuck by his depiction of the prevalence of doping in the cycling sport and how those individuals that refused to take part were alienated. It became acceptable and the norm to dope in cycling because ‘everyone’s doing it’ and cyclists felt that it was an appropriate action in their desire to win. The importance of peer group in all spheres of life cannot be underestimated – your thoughts, attitude, actions and ultimately your character is influenced greatly by who you most associate with.
Read any biographies or tips for successful entrepreneurs and they will be sure to mention that one of the reasons they are a success is because they have a strong support network. They have people in their life that they can rely on and trust. They have successful role models that they can look up to and shape themselves upon.
Build a network of supporters in your life. Think of them as your Business Sangat who will be there to support, challenge and push you towards achieving your goals. If you don’t have them in your life at the moment or need more of them think about joining a networking group and get out there to meet new people. Do not be afraid to ask people for such things – they will be honoured and want to help you.
Successful people surround themselves with a powerful and inspiring supporting team. Take a minute and think about the people you spend most of your time with. It is well documented that you become the AVERAGE of the FIVE people that you most spent time with.
So, take a moment and think about that:
• When you leave their company do you feel energised or drained?
• When you tell them your dreams and goals are they supporting? Or deflating?
• Are they projecting their own fears and insecurities on you?
It may not be possible to limit your time with such people (although I would strongly suggest you do) but asking these questions raises your awareness.
I want you to think about how you are going to interact with these people. It’s is absolutely possible to keep people in your heart but limit their influence in your life and recognise that not everyone will be supporting you or your dreams in the way you want- so go out and find those individuals that do!
Rupinder Kaur is founder of www.asianwomenmeanbusiness.com, an online and offline community that connects, champions and celebrates Asian women who are following their authentic purpose.
* This is the opinion of the writer, organisation or publication and does not necessarily represent the views of Asia Samachar.
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