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A novel of Sikh lives during the Partition

By Oindrila Mukherjee | BOOK REVIEW |

It has been nearly two years since the last installment in this series about lost, forgotten, or underrated books with an Indian connection was published. What better time to return to your bottom shelf and dust off those old volumes than during a global lockdown when you are confined to your home and isolated for weeks? While the world is being ravaged by a deadly virus, natural disasters, and social upheaval, I decide to turn to my favorite companions for solace.

If this is to be the year of hindsight, it’s fitting to resume this series with a book that won the Commonwealth Writers Prize 20 years ago for Canada and the Caribbean. Shauna Singh Baldwin’s debut 2000 novel What the Body Remembers has all the ingredients of a literary blockbuster – romance, history, suspense, and political intrigue. Its themes are as relevant today as they were two decades ago or in British India in the first half of the 20th century. But what I fell in love with, just a few pages in, was the lyrical, sensuous prose.

WHAT THE STORY REVEALS

The book begins with the birth of a baby in India under British rule at the turn of the 19th century. The baby, a girl, despite all the rituals and prayers offered in the previous life, laments her fate. After all, to be born a woman in this world meant to be resigned to one’s kismet.

What follows is the story of two women who on the surface, could not be more different. There is Satya, the grey-eyed 42 year old wife of the wealthy, Oxford-educated landowner known as Sardarji. She is fearless,outspoken, and refuses to lower her eyes when she looks at her husband. Shrewd and practical, she runs his business affairs efficiently despite the fact that she cannot do the Git-mit Git-mit talk, that is to say, speak English. However, Satya has a bigger problem; in all her years of marriage, she has failed to deliver a child.

The Anglophile Sardarji wants sons who “will start a clean race…a new race from the Best of Both Worlds.” Unbeknownst to Satya, he marries a young village girl and brings her home to his haveli in Rawalpindi. His new bride’s name, Roop, means physical form, but also refers to beauty. If Satya’s fate is to speak the truth, Roop’s fate is to use her body to deliver babies. “Learn what we women are for,” her grandmother had told her when she was a child witnessing her mother give birth. “Learning,” said Gujri, the maid who helped raise her, “is just remembering slowly, like simmer coming to boil.”

While the novel alternates between the perspectives of the two women, it is Roop’s life we follow more closely through the years. We watch her grow up in a village with a charming name – Pari Darwaza, or the Doorway of Fairies. Roop is beautiful even as a little girl, beautiful enough to be vain and long for a life of luxury. But she is deaf in one ear, a disability she promises to keep a secret. Her father is poor and her options, limited.

To save the family from ruin, she is married off at 16 to the powerful Sardarji who is 25 years older. When he gives Roop her first presents – dazzling gold jewellery that once belonged to Satya – Roop is mesmerised. But what she doesn’t understand yet is that in this marriage, she is destined to be Choti Sardarni – the second, younger, less important wife. And yet, it is her bedroom that Sardarji goes to at night. Satya hears his footsteps, and when she learns that Roop is pregnant, she asks herself – “How to bear this?”

It is impossible to pick sides. I found my sympathies oscillating between the two women. Whom to root for? The strong-willed Satya who has been betrayed? Or the innocent and submissive Roop, whose father’s parting words were “Above all, give no trouble”?

Read the full story, ‘This novel of Sikh lives during the Partition won the regional Commonwealth Prize 20 years ago’ (The Scroll, 27 June 20209, here. Oindrila Mukherjee is an Associate Professor of creative writing at Grand Valley State University in Michigan. She can be found on Twitter.

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Jagir Kaur survived bloody Punjab partition in her 20s (Asia Samachar, 30 Aug 2016)

 

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Deaf and mute Sikh boy designs face mask extender for turbans, hijabs – TheStarTV

#EditorsPick | MALAYSIA |

Wearing face masks is now part of our daily lives amid the Covid-19 pandemic but it can get tricky for those who wear head scarves and turbans.

Eleven-year-old Sikh boy, Karan, who is deaf and mute, saw his father struggling with his mask and designed an extender to help make daily wear more comfortable. – TheStarTV (27 June 2020). Click here.

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Celebrating June 28 as Karpal Singh Day

1989: Karpal Singh waving to friends after leaving the courtroom with his wife Gurmit Kaur and son Jagdeep (2nd from right).
Letter to the Editor | MALAYSIA |

“Noble and able defender of the defenceless.” So reads a plaque given to him by his client.

“He knows the law and is not afraid to use it,” many describe him.

“99% of lawyers give others a bad name,” an old joke goes. For many, he is in the 1%!

Politicians that are highly adored and loved by the people are few. He was one such.

A Malaysian with high principles and reputation for righteousness.

He may not have his articles of faith on him but he had people’s faith in him.

Kar means do, pal means good and singh means lion. His name translates as a do-good or merciful lion.

Always the one who fights for fairness till the end, alas his own was a very unfair end.

April 17, 2014, a date in history when many Malaysian hearts were shattered and tears flowed, as he began his long rest.

Yes, Karpal Singh!

Patriotic and no nonsense Malaysians miss you very much.

As much as we are sad to lose you, we are happy you happened to Malaysia.

Your legacy for justice for all Malaysians is still alive and may we continue to cherish you forever by celebrating every June 28, your birth anniversary day, as Karpal Singh Day!

A PATRIOTIC MALAYSIAN
Penang

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Karpal Singh’s arrest 31 years ago in Operasi Lalang  (Asia Samachar, 28 Oct 2018)

 

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My Journey Home: West Punjab — Part 2 of 3

Attending a regular Thursday evening Dhammal at Shah Hussain shrine in Lahore. Everyone who goes there is offered sweet kheer prepared on-site by volunteers. They sing and cook. You have to drink the warm kheer. Shah Hussain in Lahore is called Madho Lal Hussain – Photo courtesy of Dr. Tarunjit Singh Butalia
Dr. Tarunjit Singh Butalia | EXPERIENCE |

More than 120 hymns of Baba Fariduddin Ganjeshakar are enshrined in Siri Guru Ganth Sahib — the scripture I believe in. As Sikhs we consider his Bani in our scripture to be the Word of God.

Visiting his shrine in Pakpattan last December was ecstatic. My journey there was made more meaningful because history has documented that my ancestors visited Pakpapttan in 1256 AD and held a one year long langar (community kitchen) there, for which Baba Farid blessed the family with the honorific title of Bhandari.

I listened to the qawalls there in an open courtyard sing on top of their voices a Shalok from his Bani: apnarae giraewan mai sir niva kar dekh (look humbly into your own self first).

Qawwals sing at the shrine of Baba Fariduddin Ganjeshakar in Pakpattan – Photo: Dr. Tarunjit Singh Butalia

Then was time for langar — we were graciously invited to eat. We sat on the floor in lines on mats (as in Sikh Gurdwaras) and were served a simple meal by volunteers — just as my ancestors did more than seven centuries ago. We ran short of plates to eat in and I ate with our driver Nawaz — some of my fellow Indian family and friends would have been mortified to see me eat out of the same plate with a Muslim.

As a kid, my grandmother told me the same story many times: how during the bloody partition of 1947 they left our ancestral haveli (mansion), which had a black peacock painted outside it, in village Butala near Gujranwala — never to ever return.

Dr. Tarunjit Singh Butalia at his ancestral home

Last December when I reached our village with a mix of emotions of joy and sadness at the same time, I was perplexed. There were 3 havelis of the family. I was keen to visit the one in which my grandparents lived. And then I saw on the front wall of one of the havelis — a fading black peacock made of black bricks! (see peacock on wall in photo above). My heart melted and reminded me of my grandmother’s stories and her warm touch. My grandparents had walked out through these very doors 72 years ago never to return.

I was here to complete the circle of life — so with tears in my eyes and prayers on my lips, I kissed the door floor beam and entered inside. The haveli is very well maintained and is now an Islamic school for girls — a place normally men are not allowed in. The Mullah of the village accompanied me in an interfaith spirit inside the building and gave me a guided tour.

While visiting my family ancestral home, I pledged to not let the hate of the partition eclipse the love of humanity. Hate is like taking a poison pill that kills you but not does nothing to the object of hate. I learned this lesson late in life but better late than never.

Stay tuned for Part 3 of 3 next week!

Gujranwala: This is a grand old town of West Punjab best known for its longterm association with Maharaja Ranjit Singh and his Sukerchakia misl ancestors. I visited the birthplace of Maharaja Ranjit Singh and Sheranwala Bagh. This Bagh contains an old Baradari and tomb of Mahan Singh, father of Maharaja Ranjit Singh. – Photo: Courtesy of Dr. Tarunjit Singh Butalia

Dr. Tarunjit Singh Butalia is a US-based interfaith activist and scholar with deep roots in East and West Punjab in South Asia. He currently serves as Executive Director of Religions for Peace USA and is a Board Trustee of the Council for a Parliament of the World’s Religions as well as Sikh Council for Interfaith Relations.

Tarunjit visited his family ancestral home near Gujranwala in 2019, seventy-two years after his grandparents left in 1947, never to return. His ancestors lived there for many generations, including during rule of Maharaja Ranjit Singh. They owned 42 jagirs (42 means batali in Punjabi hence my family name and name of this village are the same Butala or Butalia). The article first appeared here.

 

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My Journey Home: West Punjab — Part 1 of 3 (Asia Samachar, 18 June 2020)

Experience pin drop silence at Pakistan gurdwaras (Asia Samachar, 9 April 2020)

 

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Jaila Singh Sandhu @ Mokhtar Singh (1941-2020), Retired Assistant Director, Co-Curriculum, Education Department, Negeri Sembilan

SASKAAR / CREMATION: Cortege leaves residence at No. 46, 5th Mile, Kuala Sawah Road, Mambau, 70300, Seremban, Negeri Sembilan for Jalan Templer Crematorium, Seremban, on 28 June 2020 (Sunday) at 12.30pm. SEHAJ PATH DA BHOG: 4 July 2020 (Saturday) at 10.30am at Gurdwara Sahib Seremban | Malaysia

SARDAR JAILA SINGH SANDHU @ MOKHTAR SINGH (PJK, PMC, PPN)

(16.11.1941 – 27.6.2020)

Dip. Nutrition (Indonesia), Bachelor of Laws (London)

Retired Assistant Director, Co-Curriculum, Education Department, Negeri Sembilan

Son of late Sardar Soba Singh Sandhu s/o Natha Singh

Village: Rattian, Moga, Punjab

A loving husband, caring father/father in-law, grandfather, brother, uncle and a friend to all.

Leaving behind:

Beloved Mother: Madam Bachint Kaur d/o Chanan Singh

Loving Wife: Madam Gurdial Kaur d/o Sardara Singh

Sons / Spouse:

Harry Jaila @ Harminder Singh Sandhu (Prince Court Hospital, KL) / Assoc. Prof. Dr. Mona Sidhu (IMU, KL)

Kelvin @ Kelminder Singh Sandhu (SBM Offshore, KL) / Abhilasha Bhargava (UM, KL)

Daughters / Spouse:

Jaswinder Kaur Sandhu (Jessy), (Teacher) / Baljit Singh Randhay (Safeguards, Asia)

Ravinder Kaur Sandhu (Teacher) / Jaspal Singh Jaj (Tampin)

Amarjit Kaur Sandhu (Lecturer ELTC, MOE) / Baljit Singh Gill (UOB, KL)

Grandchildren:

Dr. Balwin Singh Randhay                                     Belreena Kaur Randhay

Dr. Jasmesh Singh Sandhu                                    Harveena Kaur Gill

Dr. Jasmine Kaur Sandhu                                      Manvir Singh Jaj

Dr. Simran Kaur Jaj                                              Gobind Raj Singh Gill

Hushil Singh Sandhu                                             Banisha Kaur Sandhu

Arjun Singh Jaj                                                     Trisha Kaur Sandhu

The cortege will leave the house at No. 46, 5th Mile, Kuala Sawah Road, Mambau, 70300, Seremban, Negeri Sembilan for Jalan Templer Crematorium, Seremban, on 28th June 2020 (Sunday) at 12.30pm.

Sahej Path Da Bhog will be held on Saturday, the 4th July, 2020 at 10.30am at the Gurdwara Sahib Seremban, Negeri Sembilan. Please treat this as a personal invitation.

Contact:

Harry  019-2828698

Kelvin 012-2548051

Achievements:

Mr Jaila Singh began his humble journey in his career as a school teacher in Seremban, Negeri Sembilan, Malaysia. He then strived forward and became the Assistant Director, Co-Curriculum, Education Department, Negeri Sembilan for 22 years (1974-1996) until he retired, and was one of the longest serving officers in this department. Before he retired, he pursued a Diploma in Applied Nutrition which was conferred by the Dean of the Faculty of Medicine, University of Indonesia in 1981. He was awarded a degree of Bachelor of Laws by Ealing University, London in 1996.

He was also extremely active in sports and was himself a marathon runner and had won numerous medals. At the age of 53, Mr Jaila hiked 4095 metres up Mount Kinabalu, Sabah. He was also active as a Treasurer at the National level of 4B Majlis Belia, Malaysia. He was also awarded the Anugerah Sukan from Majlis Sukan Sekolah-Sekolah Negeri Sembilan, (MSSN) for uplifting sports in Negeri Sembilan. He helped and guided the National Sports Championship (NSC), Malaysia in 1992.

He was bestowed the awards Pingat Jasa Kebaktian (PJK) and Pingat Khidmat Cemerlang Masyarakat (PMC) at the state level. He was further awarded the Pingat Pangkuan Negara (PPN) by the Federal Government for his outstanding and exceptional contribution throughout his career.

He was committed to the Negeri Sembilan Sikh Union (NSSU) where he helmed as the President for 9 years. He received the “Maan Pattar” award in 1993 from NSSU. With great esteem and privilege, this was an award for his outstanding, exemplary, invaluable leadership services in the Sikh community. In 1993, he was also awarded the Recognition of Royal awards by NSSU.

After he retired from government service, he worked in the INTI International University for 18 years till the ripe old age of 72 years old where he received numerous excellent service awards for his outstanding performance at work. Mr Jaila Singh received an esteemed recognition for his long service award in 2014 for his 15 years contribution he had rendered to INTI, International University.

 

| Entry: 27 June 2020 | Source: Family

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Think globally, act locally: In Defense of Tarlochan Singh and his ilk

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By I.J. Singh OPINION |

Recent days have seen much on S. Tarlochan Singh (the former Indian MP) and his prominent, meaningful political voice and record of activity.

I, too, have commented on the events of 1984 and for many years continued to write a column or more every year.  My critical views remain unchanged. I still write on those times but less often because I don’t come across much new material or matters that haven’t been ably parsed by others over the years.

There was a time in the 1980’s when for some years I was on India’s official blacklist for travel visa to India. Many Sikhs have faced such meanness. I have encountered two kinds of reactions – equally passionate but opposing – from many Sikhs.  The diaspora Sikhs with few exceptions proclaimed Indira Gandhi and the Indian government as absolutely evil in such encounters; the opposite view came from Sikhs who still had a vested stake in India and were mostly residents of India. Often, they were visitors, businessmen and/or politically connected.  They saddled the blame almost entirely on diaspora Sikhs, mostly living in Europe and America, including people like me. These were mostly Hindus and some Sikhs as well, their views largely rigid, aided and abetted by the Indian government persona and press, often sans evidence.

Nevertheless, by my writings I became connected to the editorial boards of both The Sikh Review (Kolkata) and Nishaan (New Delhi), two of India’s most prominent publications in English on and about Sikhs and Sikhism; luckily these connections continue today.  Many Sikhs from India accused my writings and speeches, as unrealistically critical of the Indian government that were making life of Sikhs living in India more difficult.  They demanded that I change my ways so as not to hurt the Sikhs.

I met Tarlochan Singh on his many visits to America and these matters came up. We agreed that Sikhs will disagree on fundamental matters and have the right to do so. Think a moment: for example, in the early Castro years, many Cubans abandoned Cuba and become Americans, like many Russians, or Vietnamese who left their land of birth as their opinions about the politics likely evolved and became entirely different.  Don’t people have the right to change their political opinions?

Why must Sikhs in India suffer because of the opinions of Indian Sikhs who have left India? Sikhs living in India have different societal, cultural and political realities to contend with. If Sikhs visit India, they are subject to Indian laws. Surely, their relatives in India must not be singled out in a civilized country because some of their kin left India, walking away from its ways or laws.

In discussions on or with S. Tarlochan Singh (and others in his position), keep in mind that as Indian citizens they have to respond to the politics, laws, realities and culture of India. We, on the other hand, are guided by American or other national realities. And we should not brand other Sikhs so casually as being traitors to Sikhi.

Believe me, it would be a poorer world if, in any conversation, our goal is hundred percent agreement.  Strength and power emerge from diversity of ideas.  Be a little tolerant of India-based Sikhs and others in different realities.

The two are worlds apart. Hence the adage: Think globally act locally.

 

I.J. Singh is a New York based writer and speaker on Sikhism in the Diaspora, and a Professor of Anatomy. Email: ijsingh99@gmail.com.  

* This is the opinion of the writer, organisation or publication and does not necessarily represent the views of Asia Samachar.

 

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For Sikhs, All Lives Matter #ALM

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By Kamal Preet Kaur | OPINION |

Post-George Floyd, the idea of identity, diversity and equality of human life has become part of everyday conversation.

#BlackLivesMatter continues to trend and people around the world have joined protests, despite pandemic, to make their voices heard in support of people of colour. It is heartening to see glimpses of humanity triumphing against all odds even as I wish they had kept their social distance! It is also nice to witness Sikhs standing together with the protestors at many places and lending their voice, and of course Langar, when and where it is needed.

However, I am a little uncomfortable with the phrase #BLM. I am not saying, not even as a passing thought, that white privilege doesn’t exist or that there’s a need for it to be questioned. However, as a Sikh, I am guided by ‘Manas Ki Jaat Sabhai Ekai Pehchanbo’ (recognise all human races as one). For me all life is holy, and all life matters, not just Black, or White, or Asian, or Native, so on and so forth.

I believe that #BLM projects and pits people of colour to ‘the other’. The phrase seems more divisive than uniting. So, should they not protest? Of course, they should. We all should. To remain silent during such atrocities is to be complicit in the crime and would give strength to perpetrators of gross injustice.

So, what do we do? We need to rethink and rephrase #BLM to ALM, meaning All Lives Matter, equally, irrespective of race, colour, creed, religion, region, gender and economic status. Anyone who becomes a victim of injustice — such as George Floyd from Minneapolis — is someone’s child, sibling, parent, lover or friend, and injustices happen to people all the time, all over the world. We need to stand united against injustice and raise our voice every time we witness it so that it doesn’t come to a point where a precious life is lost.

I also believe that time is ripe for Sikhs, too, to brush under our own carpets, to practice Gurus’ teachings of embracing equality and face uncomfortable truths. Diaspora Sikhs have peculiar challenges, and many prejudices Sikhs face around the world, including India, are due to our unique identity. Many institutions, groups and individuals are making efforts to help us navigate these challenges by lobbying our respective governments and sharing information and knowledge about our faith, culture and religious traditions.

As we want the rest of the world to empathise with us, and accept us as human with equal rights, we need to work on our own empathy quotient. Sikh community in Punjab and anywhere we call ‘home’, is still marred by elitism, casteism, colourism and region-ism against members of our own community, and at times comes across more prejudiced than the host communities of the countries we face racial abuses in.

Degree of expression may vary from blatantly obvious to nuanced and subtle, but there is no denying that many of us still take pride in our last names that reflect our castes; we are still building gurdwaras based on castes; our weddings are still based on prejudices of caste, colour complexions, class and financial status; we are still doing Majha, Malwa, Doaba. Snobbery about educational qualifications and spoken English is also not uncommon. Not to mention homophobia. People from other races who have embraced Sikhi, especially from African/African-American backgrounds too have been victimised by many mainstream Sikhs.

The list of prejudices I have seen eating away at us knowingly and unknowingly can go on further. We serve the world in calamities and pandemics and raise our voices and give our lives to save the vulnerable where necessary in the spirit of Sarbat Da Bhala. However, we need lessons in tolerance and acceptance of our own people, of our own differences, of our own community needs because charity must begin at home. Sarbat Da Bhala cannot and should not exclude those who identify as one of us. The sooner we deal with it, the better, brighter and kinder future we leave for our children.

Kamal Preet Kaur is a London-based freelance journalist writing diaspora stories for various publications in India. 

 

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Unilever to rename Fair & Lovely skin-lightening cream

By Asia Samachar Team | GLOBAL |

Unilever is joining a number of global corporations in putting some distance to being accused of exploiting colourism when selling their products. Moving forward, things won’t be all ‘fair and lovely’ for this company.

In an announcement today (25 June), Unilever said it will remove the words ‘fair/fairness’, ‘white/whitening’, and ‘light/lightening’ from its products’ packs and communication. As part of the decision, it added that the Fair & Lovely brand name will be changed in the next few months.

“We recognise that the use of the words ‘fair’, ‘white’ and ‘light’ suggest a singular ideal of beauty that we don’t think is right, and we want to address this,” one of its top officials said in the statement.

In 2019, it said its Fair & Lovely pack in India had removed before-and-after impressions and shade guides that could indicate a transformation.

The move to tinker with the melanin-suppressing face cream, a top selling products in many markets, comes as the backlash against branding that trades off racial stereotypes in the aftermath of the George Floyd protests in the United States.

Triggered by incidents of police brutality against Black people, the Black Lives Matter movement has gained traction around the world and spurred companies to reassess their businesses and marketing for signs of discrimination.

Johnson & Johnson said last week that it would retreat from its skin-whitening business, which includes the Clean & Clear Fairness brand in India and its Neutrogena Fine Fairness line in Asia and the Middle East, reports Bloomberg.

In Asia, where lighter skin can be associated with wealth and status, cosmetics companies — including L’Oréal SA, Shiseido Co. Ltd., and Procter & Gamble Co. — have long devoted a big part of their business to marketing creams and lotions that promise to lighten skin tones. Some refer to their products as skin brighteners instead, and promote the idea they can help hide freckles and cover dark blemishes, the report added.

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Asian matrimonial website removes skin tone filter after backlash (Asia Samachar, 25 June 2020)

 

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Covid-19 wrecked all my plans after graduation, says Singapore film student

GurJeevaan Singh Balrose – Photo: Via Youth.sg
By GurJeevaan Singh Balrose | SINGAPORE |

I am supposed to graduate in August, but that’s not happening. With the economy so badly hit, I don’t know how or when I can start working. All my plans for the future have gone out the window. I’ve worked very hard to attain my degree in film. All the hard work and prep to build relationships with companies has all gone.

Nobody wants to hire anyone in this time of crisis. I can’t pay my student loans and phone bill. It’s very difficult to move forward. All I can do is hope for the best and take small steps.

Since you arrived, I am most worried about my family’s well-being. My grandmother is getting depressed not being able to go out, while my mum has to leave the house for dialysis every other day. It scares me as I do not know who she might meet on the trains or buses.

My time at home has taught me patience and my perspective of life has changed a little. I want to be a better version of myself. You have given me more time to reflect and map out my next move.

Read the full story, ‘Dear Covid-19: All my plans after graduation were wrecked’, (24 June 2020, youth.sg), here.

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Asian matrimonial website removes skin tone filter after backlash

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By Asia Samachar Team | UNITED STATES |

An Asian marriage website promising the ‘ultimate partner search experience’ has dropped a skin tone filter after an online petition against the option.

This is certainly one step forward in the fight against colourism in the Asian communities.

Shaadi.com has dropped the option, citing it as a blindspot, at a time when colourism in South Asia has come under the spotlight following global anti-racism protests after the death of George Floyd, a black man who died while being arrested by a white cop in the United States.

The response from the marriage and dating website came swiftly as the petition initiated by Hetal Lakhani from Dallas, US, caught fire online.

“The obsession with fair skin is still notorious within South Asian communities. The notion that fair skin makes a better bride/husband is still of significance. Whilst completely ignoring the personality, experience of life and the ability to make a good partner and son/daughter in law,” she said in the petition.

She noted that Shaadi.com had a colour filter that asked users to indicate the colour of their skin using descriptors like “Fair”, “Wheatish”, and “Dark” and allowed users the ability to search for potential partners on the basis of their skin colour.

“Now is the time to re-evaluate what we consider beautiful. Colorism has significant consequences in our community, especially for women. People with darker skin experience greater prejudice, violence, bullying, social sanctions, and all kinds of skin-lightening treatments are recommended to them under the guise of “making them desirable” or “making them more beautiful”,” wrote Hetal.

She added: “This kind of constant discrimination affects our self-esteem and mental health, with consequences as extreme as social exclusion and physical harm. Colour is only skin deep. The idea that fairer skin is “good” and darker skin is “bad” is completely irrational. Not only is it untrue, but it is an entirely socially constructed perception based in neo-colonialism and casteism, which has no place in the 21st century.”

In an update, Hetal noted that the website’s removal its colour filter did not change the reality that people will continue to anchor desirability and suitability onto people’s skin colour.

“But it will stop giving users the option to discriminate on the basis of something so shallow and arbitrary,” she said.

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