| Jasbir Kaur | Opinion | Asia Samachar | 25 July 2016 |
Hair, is a natural thing. It’s visible from birth and grows as we age but somehow along the way, it became an unsightly part of a woman’s body (because hair on men is totally acceptable). We rid ourselves of it so we can fit in with what is deemed acceptable way to showcase one’s body. We keep trimming, shaving and waxing this hair over and over again, as it tirelessly keeps growing back, darker and ticker than before with no end to this vicious cycle.
Have you every noticed a child with shaved or waxed legs? I have not and society seems perfectly fine with that. So why this need to point out or react when a teenager or an adult with hair on her body comes within your visibility range? (particularly hair on underarms, legs and bikini line). Like a skilled sniper hired to take out the enemy, gross remarks are hurled at that woman to cause nothing but pain.
I was never hairy and the natural unshorn hair hardly posed any discomfort to my body or the way I dressed. Yet, I stripped myself of it because I was wooed by glossy magazines, showing off models with hairless bodies that gleamed. I was proud of the shinny coat that revealed itself after waxing. It was everything the magazine had promised. But a fool I was and my attempt at forever owning hairless and shinny legs were foiled.
The magazines only shared half the truth (so fools like me would buy everything they sold) and decided to omit the after effects of hair removal. It didn’t say I would have to deal with the itch, barb wire like stubbles, dry skin, ingrown hair that would leave my skin all spotty and worst of all, the reemergence of darker, thicker, longer and curlier hair! (I need a paper bag, I’m hyperventilating)
No magazine mentioned the need to keep removing hair. Or that I’d be spending tons of money, buying after hair removal products. It not once mentioned the curse of the razor; once touched, forever attached.
Heed my words and don’t fall prey to this gimmick. Nothing lasts forever, especially stuff from glossy magazines.
The other reality to this situation, if you decide to stay true and natural (with hair on you body), isn’t a pretty one either. People will mock your choice, gawk at you hairy body and some may even give you free advice on how to appropriately dress a hairy body .
It requires you to be a strong person to stay real. But over time you’ll realise, it’s just a phase; the initial shock of seeing non conformity to the general society, and it will pass. It will be forgotten once they get over the shock and get to know your beautiful persona. Some may even admire you because of your confidence. Just some. But many would keep mocking you because they know, it’s not something they could ever do, no matter how inconvenienced they are with keeping up with the Joneses.
[Jasbir Kaur blogs on surviving parenthood at BeeRaise.
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