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Getting the inside scoop from Guru Gobind Singh himself

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Giani Thakur Singh: Screengrab from a video clip talking about the five children ‘blessed’ by mud
By HB SINGH | OPINION |

A pretty well-known Sikh parcharak from a high-sounding outfit was recently forced to eat his words. He apologised for suggesting that Guru Gobind Singh himself had somehow engineered the 1984 incident.

Giani Thakur Singh, a Sikh preacher who attaches himself to Damdami Taksal, was reading what seemed like a prepared text in his climb down from the preposterous claim. We can learn a few things from this incident.

To begin with, Giani Thakur is not a person that I’ve followed before (his lectures or talks or whatever). When the apology video clip began making its rounds, I decided to check him out. To my delight, there were more than enough videos on Youtube to make a fairly decent assessment of his brand of parchaar (preaching).

His content didn’t resonate with me, but he sure gave me a few chuckles. I will come to that shortly.

INSIDE SCOOP

But first, let us see how he got the ‘inside scoop’ from no less than Guru Gobind Singh.

It seemed that the ‘enlightened’ people get visitations from ‘top’ souls. Gurus and long-gone ‘babas’ visit them. These people only appear before ‘sadhu sants’ of a certain level. So, there must be some kind of a checklist before they make an appearance.

In one lecture, this roving parcharak claims he has seen some ‘babas’ maintaining extra bedding for the supposedly celestial visitors.

In another talk, he tells about his encounter with a ‘baba’. That baba apparently told him that Guru Gobind Singh made an appearance before him. Standing at his doorway, Guru Gobind Singh, it seemed, showed him his blistered tongue. Why? The sevadar had done the ‘kirpan bheth’ while the degh was piping hot.

Utter nonsense shared in the name of Sikhi parchaar. Talk about livid imagination!

But that is not the worst part. Even more baffling is the fact that so many lap it up. “He has thousands of ‘likes’ for his video. It’s not easy to get that kind of numbers,” a Sikh involved in Sikhi parchaar in Malaysia told me. Ignorance and fear is certainly at play here. Ignorance of what Sikhi is all about, and fear of calling out the dastard lies of such parcharaks.

In the case of the 1984 story, I suppose, he must have ruffled too many feathers. Hence the apology.

‘GUPPY’ THAKUR’S ANTICS

Some people have labelled him as a ‘guppy’ (wild story teller, but this does not do justice to the Punjabi word. Let me know if you can translate it better). He has himself mentioned how people have thrown that label at him, but he is not perturbed as he believes he’s doing Guru’s work.

Let me just share a few of his wild stories. Hold back the laughter.

In one lecture, he talks about a supposedly special paath (prayer) called Brahm Kavach that he recommends to one and all. You won’t find this in the Guru Granth. He gives very specific instructions. You wake up early in the morning, do keshi ishnan (take a head bath), prepare degh, place it on a clean cloth. And the list goes on. And then you start the recitation of the prayer.

This paath, he claims, has helped so many. Miracles are supposed to have taken place.

In one incident, he talked about how people who had resolved to do the path but stopped half way. One Singh who had asked for the boon of waking up early to that path started hearing jaikaras at dawn. He must have heard in stereo because it came from ‘many Singhs’.

One ‘sant’ apparently told him in person: “Thakur Sia, there was a time when we didn’t have even half a slice of bread. They only get food on the third day. But he never asked for food. All he asked from God was that he is able to do his 151 Japji Sahibs, Panj Granthi, Sahej paath, 5 banis, Raheras, Kirtan Sohela, Ardas. Please don’t take these away from me. By all means, take away food, cloths; but don’t deny me the nitnem.”

Yes, you read correctly: one hundred and fifty one Jap (ji) in the morning! Seriously?

In another talk, Thakur tells the story of how a baba makes you eat soil, and wallah, you get not 1 but 5 boys! A perfect solution for all those parents who want to have a male for their next offspring.

NAME DROPPING

These parcharaks drop names like nobody’s business. Big names. Thakur peppers his talks with the names of Baba Jarnail Singh Bindranwale and Baba Kartar Singh Khalsa (‘whom I know’, he says), both of the Damdami Taksal fame.

And if you listen carefully, many of these parcharaks would place themselves, unashamedly, in the ‘enlightened’ category. If not directly, then the followers would happily do it for them. Why not? An elevated ‘baba’ would immediately elevate their standing, too!

SAT BACHAN SIKHS

In his lectures, Giani Thakur keeps drumming on the importance of being a ‘sat bachan’ type of Sikh. What is that? When given an instruction, embrace it whole heartedly, without question.

To impress on its importance, he illustrates with stories of how Bhai Lehna does all the bidding of Guru Nanak, never questioning, never trying to reason. But, wait a minute? That’s Guru Nanak giving out the instructions. He wants to equate it to today’s living, breathing, talking ‘babas’? And we go ‘sat bachan’? He must be joking.

Guru Nanak wants us to question everything that we do. Guru Nanak wants us to be crystal clear as to why we do what we do. But these baba types want us to be like sheep. They want us to follow blindly. Good luck to those who submit to their silly whims and fancies.

The ‘bachan’ today is the Shabad as enshrined in the Guru Granth Sahib. Surely not the fallible uttering of a baba, however exalted one may deem him (or her) to be.

They are merely twisting and turning things for their benefit. They want people to submit unquestioningly to their dictates and whims. They deploy fear. They make use of our ignorance.

Do check out the likes of Thakur Singh and others. But I do hope people turn to them for entertainment and not for serious, authentic Sikhi instruction.

Hb Singh is a Kuala Lumpur-based journalist with some experience in dealing with Sikh organisations, both from within and outside. 

* This is the opinion of the writer, organisation or publication and does not necessarily represent the views of Asia Samachar.

 

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Pulapol gurdwara bids farewell to long-serving caretakers

Parminder Kaur: Gurdwara Sahib Pulapol sewadar gets a farewell – Photo supplied
By MANPREET KAUR | KUALA LUMPUR

Gurdwara Sahib Pulapol threw a farewell party for Parminder Kaur and her husband Amarjit Singh @ Adik who had served the Kuala Lumpur-based gurdwara for 22 years. On Oct 4, the Sanggat of the gurdwara organised the party in recognition of their contribution.

Over the years, they looked over the gurdwara and took care of almost everything from cooking, cleaning and assisting the gurdwara programmes.

After 22 years as the gurdwara caretakers, the family has decided to return to their hometown. They will be leaving end-November.

The gurdwara is located within the Pusat Latihan Polis (Pulapol), or police training centre, at Jalan Sultan Yahya Petra in Kuala Lumpur.

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Ideas, Ideals & Technology

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By I.J. Singh OPINION

A universal sequence, nay, a law to human life and progress comes to mind.

Sometimes an idea sparks in a brain and mind prepared by circumstance or conscious design.  Without technology to breathe life into it, the idea remains unfulfilled.  If it is not to be buried in the ash heap of history, technology must evolve to ignite it.  Progress results when the idea is productively yoked to technology that provides the tools; jointly they produce application.

But the idea and the technology may not always fit each other.  This may demand tweaking of the idea and/or its model. Nevertheless, fertility of the human mind is both unique and never-ending.  Remember when we ‘knew’ without a doubt that a machine heavier than air would never fly.  Now we know that to be nonsense.

Today, I briefly probe the religion(s) of mankind; why and how they arose and the technology that gives them life. I will largely lean on my own faith – Sikhi – but I hope that my hypotheses are pretty universal.

It is self-evident that humans at birth and in their early life are vulnerable, utterly unable to survive independently.  Human survival and progress depend on viable families and communities.  Shared attributes of language, culture, cuisine and music etc. provide the common ethos– religion –often becoming the binding glue that unites a people into a community.

The human comes uniquely gifted with intellect and imagination, and remains largely driven by curiosity about who am I, where did I come from, the purpose of my existence, where was I before birth and what happens after I die!  In our life and death such questions remain, endlessly dissected but never fully laid to rest.

What matters most are not the questions; they may or may not always have entirely cogent answers.  Important instead is that they unite a community in a shared meaning and purpose, and that makes the best glue for a people. The answers may not always be verifiable or replicable, but they need be credible so that people will put their heads on the line to preserve what answers a community has evolved and accepted.  Forget not that sometime the glue sets to a crazy consistency; this then hampers the ingress and egress of ideas.

Today, I offer you a kitchen sink of ideas; some underdone, others burned to a crisp, a few might even be over-spiced.  It’s like a fancy dinner where everyone is salivating for the promised dessert, but we often have no idea when even the appetizer and entre might arrive.

INDIA BEFORE SIKHI

What was India like before Sikhi emerged almost 550 years ago. For better than a millennium, India had regressed.  The majority culture was Hinduism, hopelessly divided along rigidly defined inviolate caste barriers.  Low caste Hindus were no better than slaves and women lived severely restrictive lives.  For fuller details explore the writings of Manu, the law giver of Hindu society.  Many of these feature sexist even today.

This internally fragmented society was easy pickings for Greeks, Arabs, Mongols, Mughals, Muslims, and a variety of Europeans.  Traders, invaders and wannabe conquerors hurtled regularly into Northern India – the Punjab — to rape and pillage, conquer, perish or return with looted treasures. India – a people, divided into small principalities with semi-independent satraps and rulers who collaborated with invaders for petty ambitions.  India was not a united nation; it’s barely that today. Hindus were and remain a monumental majority.  Denied their basic rights by the politically dominant Muslims, Hindus lived under the Muslim heel with oft-enforced conversions to Islam.

In the Indian society of that time, ideas of a cooperative, multifaith, inclusive society with basic freedoms, participatory self-governance, accountability, economic progress, justice and equality at its core was a distant dream. India needed a paradigm shift. Ideals and ideas, like steps in “nation building,” can be parsed in a theoretical exercise until the cows come home; the question is how to breathe life into them.

Thus, emerged the ideas and ideology of Sikhi along with an essential synergistic technology. Remember that without marrying the two, ideology remains hot air while technology becomes toys with no unifying larger purpose.

SIKH NATION  BUILIDING

In the Sikh version of nation building, ideology took a couple of centuries to finally surface as the Sikh scripture – Guru Granth Sahib. Associated technology had to emerge at the same time for this sacred literature to transform a people from centuries of backward existence.

I reiterate: learning anything requires both ideas and technology, neither alone is sufficient.  Think how we merge theory and practice in the making of physicians, engineers, even short-order cooks, or to impart primary school basics. There is an idea to everything good or bad, and there is a corresponding technology.

What were Guru Nanak’s first steps to forge a community? Teach people to interact and talk with each other. Shatter caste barriers by breaking bread together; these morphed into the modern Sikh langar where everyone, irrespective of gender, caste, status or religious label, would sit to share a meal – contrary to eons-old divisive practices.  And thank who for this largesse? The Creator of us all who is beyond our measurements and calculations.  To me, these constituted the first technological steps on the Sikh path.

Sangat and Pangat were the foundational technology for a community. Ideas and technology evolved as needed.  Then were added twice a year conclaves (Sikh community and Sarbat Khalsa) for the Sikh nation.  These were the beginnings of participatory self-governance.

When an armed militia became necessary for self-defense, such a force was maintained by all Gurus of the Sikh movement from Guru Hargobind to Guru Gobind Singh. The militia was substantial and powerful but never directed to conquer territory or riches or people. A common language (Punjabi) and script (Gurmukhi) evolved as needed.  A community’s cohesiveness demands a code of conduct, much like a Constitution, and one (Guru Granth) was pretty fully developed by early 17th century; its formal adoption came almost a hundred years later, when rites and traditions seemed well established.

At the core was the infrastructure of Greater Punjab.  Several centers and townships were founded by the Gurus, such as Kartarpur, Khadur Sahib, Goindwal, Amritsar, Tarn Taaran, Hargobindpur, Keeratpur, Anandpur, and many more in Punjab and beyond.  These trading and manufacturing hubs were the infrastructure of greater Punjab. Many more examples abound, but I leave this list incomplete today; Astute readers will surely add additional ideas and ideals that emerged along with technological innovations and mechanisms of support.

NAAM: A CRITICAL REQUIREMENT

Today my focus is on a critical requirement in Sikhi that I have not earlier explored much — that of Naam. Very briefly “Naam” literally means a name, and in Sikhi it refers to the Creator.  The practice of Naam then becomes remembering the Creator; its purpose becomes integrating the awareness and presence of the Creator in one’s life.

Zillion citations of the core ideas are possible; here I provide only two that mandate connection with the Creator by constant remembrance of him (Awar kaaj tere kitay na kaam, mil sadhsangat bhaj kewal naam, Guru Granth pp. 12). Intimately associated with it is our usual understanding of overarching ideas and domain of Hukum as a process of meeting or union with the Creator as the goal (Hukmae(N) undar sub ko baahar hukum na koye, Guru Granth pp. 1).  The process asks that we live entirely in the will of the Creator, accompanied by worship, praise and remembrance of the Creator.  This is the usual interpretation.

If you listen to an exegesis of Sikh practice it becomes clear that remembrance of the Creator —Naam japna – is a major step.  So much so that many Sikhs are proud as peacocks of how much time and effort they expend on it every day. Naam or the connection to the Creator is celebrated in Sikhi as the greatest boon that a generous Creator can bestow.

Why such heavy emphasis on it? To a casual observer the practice appears as pointless repetition of hymns etc.  How and why does Naam become a fundamental technology to the goal of a Sikh on the path of Sikhi?

A literal take on Sikhi appears to be endless praise of the Creator.  Again, we need to look at this human practice more precisely.  Doesn’t much, if not all of it, sound like flattery of the Creator? The Creator is an infinite reality beyond our finite human characteristics of birth and death, caste, color, creed, race, gender, and form etc., by which we document our existence.  Our finite existence, language and imagination are surely not capable of capturing fully what is by definition infinite and beyond our talents and senses.

Ergo, our finite (limited) existence makes it necessary to recast the infinite into a finite anthropomorphic reality with which we can commune, as with any kind, forgiving human.  So, looking at a human beseeching God reminds me of a massively insecure and weak human talking to the boss of his bosses – a higher, nay the highest, power, who takes great pleasure in the flattery by weaker subjects! The Creator appears to be an all-powerful reality, a micro-manager, often arbitrary, even capricious, perhaps open to a little bribery and cajolery.  Basically, like a human but on a larger scale than any that we can imagine or hold. So, our relationship emerges more often from fear than love.  But then why is the language of prayer cast in such humility in every religion?  Clearly this is the only way we humans can transcend our endless ego when facing the endless Creator. I don’t know if God created Man in his own image but it seems that Man has created God very much in the human image, perhaps because this incarnation is easier to understand and manipulate.

Remember that our mind is obsessed with questions about what we are and why we are the way we are.  Bribing or flattering the Creator should never be but it becomes the answer.  What we humans need instead is to calm our endlessly restless mind and to be engaged with life in a productive and positive existence such that the Creator becomes the central reality of life.  But we should never endow the Creator with the same weaknesses that we have discovered in our own lives. In other words, do not create a Creator in the human image.

Think back to growing up.  In teaching and learning poetry, versification and music are fundamental techniques common to all mankind irrespective of their language, culture, geography, and regardless of surfeit or relative poverty of talent in the variety of people.

ULTIMATE PURPOSE

The ultimate purpose of religion is to impart a way of life, a philosophy to live and die for, to make a life, not a living which can and will be done in a myriad way.  These are lessons for life here and now on this Earth, not necessarily for a life after death. Thus, Naam becomes a heavy-duty tried and true technology.

Look at most religions and what hits us is the repetition of the message, often as sound bites, and with minor exceptions couched in the language of music.  (I understand that mainstream Islam does not easily accommodate a central place for music, but Islam has sects such as the Sufis that do.  I am not certain under what circumstances the Islamic banishment of music emerged.)

There may be other minor exceptions, but I see that most religions depend on music – vocal rendition of prayers – as the fundamental process.  The purpose is for the community of people to raise their voices in unison and to feel the ultimate connectivity that lies at the core of what we call “merging or being with God.” In other words, silencing the mind such that one can feel the mind at peace.  As Guru Granth says:  Munn pardesi jetheeeyae subh des parayya(p 766.), meaning that the whole world remains alien to one who does not know his own self.  Further along, “Munn jeetae jug jeet”(Guru Granthp. 1102) reminds us to conquer the mind and you will have conquered the world. Shades of Socrates exhorting us to “Know thyself?”

This simple message is designed to work a dramatic revolution in our life.  What better then to cast this simple but profound message in verse.  Further, frame it in the eons-old, immensely rich,classical musical tradition of India.  The purpose: To seduce our ears and grab our mind to work its magic.  In music humans transcend the chores and worries of life. What could be a better technique to change our consciousness?  Don’t forget the ultimate purpose is to capture the mind.

Thus, there is a certain unmistakably rhythmic chanting reality to Keertan and Naam Simran – a self-hypnotic cadence and process that’s purely magical.  In my view these two emerge as the most impactful and meaningful technologies to Sikh praxis. Keertan and Naam then become the defining technology of Sikhi (Kaljugmei(N) keertan pardhana, Guru Granth, p. 1075). Thoreau reminds us that “In a world of peace and love music would be the universal language.”

The practice then calms the body and mind and binds them in peace, minus the slings and arrows of outrageous fortune that visit every life every day.  The goal is to be in a centered state of mind, somewhat like being in the eye of the needle while straddling a storm. Sikhs across the world, even those who do not quite understand the language of keertan or naam, feel and understand this.  Hence, these two practices engage our people the most; look at any gurduara service!

How then to keep connected to this attitude and its reality?  Look at humanity.  Notice that most of their magical music emerges from their connection to religion.  Keep in mind a little Latin “Vox populi vox dei” the voice of the people is the voice of God. Naam and Keertan capture that magic, as little else can.

An Americanism directs us to “Put our money where our mouth is.” I embrace it with a slight reframing and retranslation.  Let money be your resources or efforts.  The mouth of course stands for well thought ideas, like the plans of mice and men.Three things endure in my rickety life: Faith, hope and love.  The greatest of the three is love.

The Founder-Gurus of Sikhi did not prescribe it but some Sikhs have added the technological discipline of physical activity as yoga and related disciplines to the practice of Sikhi. This, too, would be eminently useful.

The command in Guru Granth to meditate asks us to center the mind.  This is crucial to a meaningful life and the dedicated pursuit of any goal or activity, even if it is manufacturing widgets. A centered, focused mind that is not so easily swayed by the multitude of distractions around it and that can experience the universal connectivity that binds us all is the goal.

We all know that sometimes, engrossed in life’s trivia, the mind merges so seamlessly with whatever it is we are into that even the most mundane pursuit becomes sublime and effortless – pure pleasure.   How then to move towards this mindset is the purpose of the daily worship that Sikhi recommends and mandates – the nitnaym.

This daily connection to the eternal within is not a bargaining chip for a life in the hereafter.  It is not to guarantee a place in heaven but to help us make this life sublime.

A dear friend, Manjyot Kaur, captured the spirit of my exercise today by a witty comeback: If ideas and ideals are the compulsions of our lives, technology provides the propulsion.

I.J. Singh is a New York based writer and speaker on Sikhism in the Diaspora, and a Professor of Anatomy. Email: ijsingh99@gmail.com.  

* This is the opinion of the writer, organisation or publication and does not necessarily represent the views of Asia Samachar.

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Sarjeet Kaur (1932-2018), Taiping

AKHAND PATH: 9am, 26 Oct (Friday) to 28 Oct 2018 (Sunday), at Gurdwara Sahib Taiping. PATH DA BHOG: 28 Oct 2018 (Sunday), 11.30am onwards | Malaysia

Sarjeet Kaur (1932-2018), Taiping

SARJEET KAUR D/O HARI SINGH

Born: 10 Dec 1932

Departed: 12 Oct 2018

Husband: Late Sardar Lall Singh

Children / Spouses:

Gernal Kaur / Kuldip Singh

Tarlochan Singh / Deb Kaur

Late Suckdzir Singh / Balbun Kaur

Late Minta Singh / Manjit Kaur

Late Ranjeet Singh / Ambar Kaur

Gurdib Singh / Serjit Kaur

Harbans Kaur / Baljeet Singh

Baljit Kaur / Sukhdev Singh

Leaving behind 22 grandchildren and 28 great grandchildren

Akhand Path: Starts 9am, 26 Oct (Friday) to 28 Oct 2018 (Sunday), at Gurdwara Sahib Sri Guru Singh Sabha Larut, Taiping (Gurdwara address: 23, Jalan Stesyen Ulu, 34000 Taiping, Perak)

Path Da Bhog: 28 Oct 2018 (Sunday), 11.30am onwards. Guru ka Langgar will be served at Gurdwara Sahib Sri Guru Singh Sabha Larut, Taiping

Contact:

Gurdib Singh (Dave) 019-5504614

Satveer Singh (Sati) 010-2973380

 

| Entry: 12 Oct 2018; Updated 15 Oct 2018 | Source: Family |

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Widower age 34. Being Mummy & Daddy

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Raj Singh Rainu, his wife and kids – Photo courtesy of his LinkedIn page
By RAJ SINGH RAINU |

Some of you will know that my wife died of cancer age 34 three weeks ago. She left behind three beautiful children; two daughters age 9 and 5 and a son who is 3. It came as a massive shock to a lot of people but me, I knew this was going to happen. I prepared for her death over the last 9 months so you could say I have been grieving since then.

In January she was told she had stomach cancer and her life would be cut short. She wasn’t told how long but I went back into the room after we left and asked what time are we looking at. 18 months to 2 years.

Her health deteriorated because of a liver infection she contracted after a simple procedure that went wrong in hospital. But in May the consultant told her she only had 12 months left. In July it was 6 weeks left (which she outlived) and on 9th September she was told she had days left. I guess the higher up you are in the NHS, the less you give a shit about how you say things to patients. The consultant turned around and said to her

“You do know you are going home to die don’t you?”

Not once did she cry or get fazed by what was said to her. Her response? “I’ll fight this no matter what.”

Over her final days her health became progressively worse and at 11.30pm on Wednesday 19th September, she took her final 3 breaths and died peacefully with her family around her.

The morning after was the hardest for me since she was diagnosed. My kids woke up expecting their mummy to still be in the hospital bed in the corner of our front room. Before we all walked in, I explained to them that God in the sky has now taken mummy but she gave them all a kiss good night before she left. My eldest ran upstairs and locked herself in her room and cried hysterically. My 5 year old was silent, looked around and casually walked into the other room and sat on the sofa. She asked me how God took her. I told her God held her hand and said “Come on mummy, it’s time to go in the sky now”. She paused and asked

“Daddy can we face time her?”

That was it for me. It was that was at that exact moment you could hear my heart shatter into a million pieces. I held her as tight as I could hoping she couldn’t see the tears rolling down my face. She pushed me away and went back to watching the tv.

The wife and kids – Photo courtesy of his Raj Singh Rainu LinkedIn page

The following Thursday we carried out her funeral with around 1400 people attending the service. I gave a speech at the crematorium which was recorded and will be uploaded on YouTube soon along with a tribute video.

Two days later we celebrated her 35th birthday. This we did exactly how she would have wanted it. Lots of food and close family getting together at home. Some of the older members of the family felt a bit uncomfortable as the way they deal with a death in the family is to mourn and mope around for days and weeks. My outlook is the opposite. I wanted to celebrate what she had achieved in her short life and to show the kids they have so much support and love around them even though their mummy is no longer with us. And honestly after what I’ve been through these last 20 months or so, I couldn’t give a hoot about what anyone thought! My kids come first and it’s up to me to carry on my wife’s legacy.

Every single day since after my wife died, my three year old son asks me “When’s mummy coming back? Has the doctor fixed her yet? I want to see mummy!” My response? “She’s not coming back. She’s gone forever.” You have to tell children the truth, never lie to them about death. It’s so hard and every day is a challenge but I’m ready.

I have practised mental toughness training for years and it has definitely helped me through this year and it will help me for years to come. All my family and friends can see how strong I am and I really hope it inspires them to be tough when shit hits the fan. I literally feel fearless. If ISIS stood in front of me, I would actually run towards them! For us we have lost one person but for her, she has lost thousands. I can’t even image how hard that could have been. If she was tough throughout her whole illness then what right do I have to breakdown? Her strength and courage has definitely been passed to me.

My life has been turned upside down and I have to start from the bottom again but my motto in life is THERE IS ALWAYS SOMEONE WORSE OFF THAN YOU! I strongly believe that. And the death of my wife has affected thousands and I’m overwhelmed by the support we have. I will lean on you guys as I know I won’t be able to do this myself.

Let’s see what we have in store as my next chapter begins as Mummy & Daddy…

#Always5

The gathering – Photo courtesy of his Raj Singh Rainu LinkedIn page

Raj is owner of UK’s first wills & estate planning company for the Sikh community. This personal story was first shared at his LinkedIn page

 

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Lt-Col Dr Inderjit voted best lecturer once again at Malaysian defence university

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Lt Col Dr Inderjit Singh – Photo: Supplied

Lieutenant Colonel Dr Inderjit Singh, a lecturer in the National Defence University of Malaysia (UPNM), won the best lecturer award for the fourth consecutive year.

The selection was determined by students and peer lecturers of UPNM with a final presentation to a selected team of lecturers from other public universities.

Lt-Col Inderjit had served the Malaysian Arm Forces for 36 years. He also represented Malaysia as a military observer in the United Nations Peace mission in Ethiopia and Eriteria UNMEE in 2004.

Inderjit also won the Sportsmen of the Year Award for UPNM where he is a hockey coach and manager for staff and students, leveraging on his own hockey experience.

Inderjit represented Malaysia in the Masters World Cup Hockey tournament in Australia in 2016 and Spain this year. Malaysia emerged sixth placing this year amongst 15 nations.

Both the awards were presented by UPNM chairman Dr Syed Azman Syed Ibrahim, Vice Chancellor Lt-Gen Abdul Halim Jalal and senior management of UPNM on 10 Oct 2018.

 

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Day 23: Here comes the storm of spiritual wisdom

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By Surinder Kaur Sohan Singh | SIKHI STUDY | OPINION

ਦੇਖੌ ਭਾਈ ਗ੍ਯ੍ਯਾਨ ਕੀ ਆਈ ਆਂਧੀ ॥

Dhaekho bhaee Giaan kee aaee aandhee. (SGGS 331)

Aandhee means storm. Giaan refers to spiritual knowledge.

Meaning: Behold O brethren, the storm of spiritual wisdom has come into my life.

Kehi Kabir man bha-i-aa pargaasa udhai bhaan jab cheena (SGGS 332)

ਕਹਿ ਕਬੀਰ ਮਨਿ ਭਇਆ ਪ੍ਰਗਾਸਾ ਉਦੈ ਭਾਨੁ ਜਬ ਚੀਨਾ ॥੨॥੪੩॥

Meaning: This storm has taken away the ignorance of my mind. The sun of knowledge has replaced this darkness and now I am enlightened and for the first time I have experienced BLISS in my life.

In this SHABAD, Kabirji is sharing his experience of going from darkness of ignorance to light and bliss in His mind.

He says there was a time that his mind was surrounded by the darkness of ignorance. This was because he had built a hut for himself with the foundation of wrong thought processes and actions (Bharam).

The roof of this hut was built of thrisna (desires). The beam was built of attachment. The pillars for this hut were of duality. The space inside had a pitcher filled with evil wisdom.

His life was miserable living in this hut that had all the following: Bharam, Thrisna, Double mindedness, Attachments, Vices.

Then one day he experienced a great storm in his life. This storm was of the right knowledge / wisdom. This storm completely destroyed the whole hut that he had built.

Sabhai udaanee bharam kee taatee rehai na Maaiaa baandee.

Bharam is something that we believe to be true/ right but actually it is not. Meaning: The storm of knowledge has blown away all my wrong thought processes.

Duchitay kee duay thoon giraaee Moh balayda toota.

Duchitay means double mindedness The pillars holding the roof was my double mindedness. The pillars collapsed and this caused the beam of attachments to break.

Thrisna chaan paree dhar oopar durmatt bhanda foota.

Thrisna is never ending desires. As a result of the beams collapsing, the roof of desires fell flat down on the earth and with it the pitcher of evil wisdom broke.

Aandhee paachay jo jal barkhai tihi taera jan bheena.

Jal refers to rain that comes after the storm. Meaning: The rain that followed after the storm has drenched me completely and left me with a feeling of bliss.

Each one of us have also built a hut similar to Kabir ji ‘s hut which creates a block in our efforts to experience peace and bliss.

We have the Bharam that whatever we are doing in the name of religion is right although Gurbani doesn’t agree with it. Here are some examples:

  • Guruji’s Bani is telling us that Nature is already performing a beautiful aarti for the Lord. We do not need to pluck those beautiful flowers to give to the Lord. But we choose not to listen.
  • Guruji says it is not possible to clean the mind by bathing at the Theerath. We choose to ignore it.
  • We visit these places every year to clean ourselves.
  • Guruji says we do not need a middleman to communicate with GOD. We need to  read the Bani ourselves. We ignore that. Instead of doing that we pay others to read it for us.
  • Guruji says our mind is dirty. Give it to the Guru to clean. We do not want to part with it. We keep on giving other things to please GOD but we are not willing to give up our wrong thought processes.
  • Guruji says don’t waste the milk by using it to wash the floor of the Gurdwaras. Give it to the poor people to drink it. We think it gives extra merit points to wash the floor with milk.
  • Attachments: Guruji says give up your vices. We hold on tight to our vices.

We have very strong attachments to our vices. This is the attachment that we need to give up. Guruji is not telling us to stop loving our families. Sikhi encourages family life. It is against abandoning the family and going of into the jungle. What Guruji wants us to abandon is the love and attachments to our vices. But these are the things that we are not willing to give up.

We are doing everything according to our own understanding. This understanding is wrong (Durmatt/ Kumatt).

Kabirji has worked on his Durmatt by understanding the true message of his Guru and changing his thinking patterns. This has resulted in bliss for him.

He is advising us to do the same if we desire happiness and bliss in our lives.

 

Surinder Kaur Sohan Singh is a Malaysia-based Gurbani enthusiast. This is an edited version of her regular articles shared within a circle of fellow Sikhi seekers. The articles appear on Mondays and Thursdays.

* This is the opinion of the writer, organisation or publication and does not necessarily represent the views of Asia Samachar.

 

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Tiger: True story of boxer Pardeep Singh Nagra

Mickey Rourke’s boxing feature ‘Tiger’, slated to be released on 2 Nov, is inspired by the true story of Pardeep Singh Nagra, a practicing Sikh man who was banned from the sport of boxing due to his religious beliefs.

The trailer was released recently. See here.

https://youtu.be/nNLcC8vzavk

Starring Janel Parrish (‘Pretty Little Liars), breakout stars Prem Singh and Michael Pugliese and Academy Award nominee Mickey Rourke (‘The Wrestler’), the movie is slated for release at select AMC and Regal Theatres in Los Angeles, New York, New Jersey, San Francisco, and Sacramento as well as in Cineplex and Landmark theatres in Canada.

The plotline of the film revolves around the true story of Ontario flyweight amateur boxing champion Pardeep Singh Nagra, a member of the Sikh faith, who was banned from the sport for refusing to shave his facial hair, reports Meaww.com.

Unwilling to back down from his religious beliefs, he chooses to fight back resulting in battles that transcend beyond the ring and into the courtroom. This incredibly moving story not only brings understanding and awareness to a religion that is often misunderstood but is also relevant in today’s socio-political climate.

In the film, Rourke portrays head coach and mentor Frank Donovan, while Janel Parrish plays Nagra’s attorney as he embarks on his journey of protecting his rights. Directed by Alister Grierson and produced by Rocco Pugliese, Jeff Maynard and Howard Nash, the brilliant screenplay is what the driving force behind the project. Both Prem Singh and Michael Pugliese star in the film as Nagra and his adversary, respectively. They co-wrote the screenplay and managed to raise $4 million to make the film and pitched the feature to Rourke directly while he was boxing at a gym, reported Variety.

Speaking of which, the duo said: “We were both drawn to this project for many reasons, but the main point was the true experience of Pardeep Nagra. The narrative of the film, the clash between institutions with long-held traditions and the individuals who challenge the paradigm because of how they identify, has a strong contemporary resonance today.”

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Jasmin Kaur goes to Hogwarts

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By Jasmin Kaur @jusmunkaur | FOUND ON TWITTER |

Even if we got out Hogwarts letter, how would we have convinced out parents to let us go?

(I once asked my mom if she would let me go hogwarts if it was real and the answer was a definite no.)

 

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Aussie radio SBS Punjabi wins mental health award

Dr Preetinder Singh Grewal with NSW Mental Health Commissioner Catherine Lourey – Photo: Supplied / SBS Punjabi

SBS Punjabi won an award at this year’s Mental Health Matters Awards in recognition of four stories that were broadcast over the Aussie radio channel.

The station took home the Media Award for the 2018 Mental Health Matters Awards for two stories researched and presented by Dr Preetinder Singh Grewal and another two produced and broadcast by executive producer Manpreet Kaur Singh.

Preetinder received this award on behalf of SBS Punjabi for raising awareness in the fields of the mental health and wellbeing.

At the award ceremony, Preetinder emphasised the need to raise mental health awareness among the culturally and linguistically diverse communities (CALD).

“Sometimes people from migrant communities are not vocal to share their mental health problems,” he said. “We’ve the advantage as we speak their own language. We’ve access to many language-speaking mental health practitioners who provide advice on how to get the much-needed help,” he was quoted in a SBS Punjabi report.

He said that despite some serious mental programs, there are still important gaps in mental health care for the migrant families.

“Having a mental illness and asking for helping is nothing to be ashamed of. If you’re not feeling well, it’s important that you talk to a doctor, a mental health organization or somebody you trust,” he says.

SBS Punjabi has been consistently covering stories of mental health focusing on the Punjabi speaking community, broadcasting in the Punjabi language, the report said.

The annual award run by WayAhead were presented during the annual Mental Health Month launched on 27 September. The special guests were NSW Minister for Mental Health MP Tanya Davies and NSW Mental Health Commissioner Catherine Lourey.

 

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