You are blessed when you die in a gurdwara?

A lady dies in a gurdwara, while facing the Sri Guru Granth Sahib. How blessed, remarks someone. What does Sikhi actually say about this?

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By Hb Singh

“This lady passes on in front of SGGS JI in gurdwara. She is so blessed. After having parshad (gepha), she just lay down in front of Waheguru Ji.”

The above note accompanied a video shared by a friend in one of my Whatsapp groups. It shows a lady, probably in her 60s, entering a darbar sahib, the prayer room in a gurdwara. She circumambulates the Sri Guru Granth Sahib (SGGS), then partakes degh, the sweet pudding we traditionally get at the gurdwara. She sits facing the SGGS. After partaking the degh, she collapses to the left. A man rushes to her aid, but seemingly to no avail. All through, a soothing music is playing in the background.

Are you blessed to die such a death? My immediate response: “It’s a touching video, seeing a lady whose the age of a mum to most of us here. However, I have a slightly different take on it. No difference where you die. No difference how you die. What matters is what you did up to the point your soul leaves the body.”

In response, the friend agreed. He admitted to having forwarded the message as received, not giving it much thought until I pointed it out to him. He then mentioned about how we have heard of Muslims casually saying how it would be blessed to die in Makkah while performing the hajj, or Sikhs talk about dying Amritsar. From the Hindu side, we have heard about how it is blessed to die in Kashi – the old name of Varanasi – as opposed to Magahar which is located about 240km from Lucknow. Even today, Kashi still attracts thousands of old people, mainly widows, who await death in the hope of attaining salvation (Deccan Herald, 2011).

Bhagat Kabir, whose compositions are embedded in the SGGS, deals with this topic head on. Kabir challenges the belief that Kashi was supposed to be a blessed place to die, as proclaimed by the Brahmins, while Magahar was cursed.

ਤੋਰੇ ਭਰੋਸੇ ਮਗਹਰ ਬਸਿਓ ਮੇਰੇ ਤਨ ਕੀ ਤਪਤਿ ਬੁਝਾਈ ॥

Thorae Bharosae Magehar Basiou Maerae Than Kee Thapath Bujhaaee ||
Relying upon You, I can live even in the cursed place of Magahar; You have put out the fire of my body.

ਪਹਿਲੇ ਦਰਸਨੁ ਮਗਹਰ ਪਾਇਓ ਫੁਨਿ ਕਾਸੀ ਬਸੇ ਆਈ ॥੨॥

Pehilae Dharasan Magehar Paaeiou Fun Kaasee Basae Aaee ||2||
First, I obtained the Blessed Vision of Your Darshan in Magahar; then, I came to dwell at Benares. ||2||

ਜੈਸਾ ਮਗਹਰੁ ਤੈਸੀ ਕਾਸੀ ਹਮ ਏਕੈ ਕਰਿ ਜਾਨੀ ॥

Jaisaa Magehar Thaisee Kaasee Ham Eaekai Kar Jaanee ||
As is Magahar, so is Benares; I see them as one and the same.

ਹਮ ਨਿਰਧਨ ਜਿਉ ਇਹੁ ਧਨੁ ਪਾਇਆ ਮਰਤੇ ਫੂਟਿ ਗੁਮਾਨੀ ॥੩॥

Ham Niradhhan Jio Eihu Dhhan Paaeiaa Marathae Foott Gumaanee ||3||
I am poor, but I have obtained this wealth of the Lord; the proud are bursting with pride, and die. ||3||

ਕਰੈ ਗੁਮਾਨੁ ਚੁਭਹਿ ਤਿਸੁ ਸੂਲਾ ਕੋ ਕਾਢਨ ਕਉ ਨਾਹੀ ॥

Karai Gumaan Chubhehi This Soolaa Ko Kaadtan Ko Naahee ||
One who takes pride in himself is stuck with thorns; no one can pull them out.

ਅਜੈ ਸੁ ਚੋਭ ਕਉ ਬਿਲਲ ਬਿਲਾਤੇ ਨਰਕੇ ਘੋਰ ਪਚਾਹੀ ॥੪॥

Ajai S Chobh Ko Bilal Bilaathae Narakae Ghor Pachaahee ||4||
Here, he cries bitterly, and hereafter, he burns in the most hideous hell. ||4||

ਰਾਮਲਕੀ (ਭ. ਕਬੀਰ) (੩) ੪:੨ – ਗੁਰੂ ਗ੍ਰੰਥ ਸਾਹਿਬ : ਅੰਗ ੯੬੯ ਪੰ. ੧੫

— SGGS, p969 (English translation from SearchGurbani.com)

While researching on this topic, I came across a wonderful explanation of the shabad above by Daljit Singh Jawa in ‘It is the Same Light: The Enlightening Wisdom of Sri Guru Granth Sahib (SGGS), Vol 5. He writes:

Talking to yogis, Kabir Ji…takes another aspect of Hindu belief, that if at the time of death, you live in Banaras or Kashi (India) you go to heaven. But if you die in the city of Maghar near Gorakh Pur (India), then you would be born as a donkey in your next birth. In order to remove this superstition from people’s minds Kabir Ji went to Maghar twice, and ultimately died there.

In this context, addressing God, Kabir Ji says: “O’ my Master, for me You are like my Sumer mountain, because I have grasped on to Your support. Since You don’t waver, (by grasping to Your support) I also do not fall down (from my firm beliefs, and this way You have saved my (honor).” (1)

Once again confirming his firm belief in God, Kabir Ji says: “(O’ my God), now, then and whenever, for me You and You alone (are my support) and by Your grace, I am always in peace.” (1-pause)

Now specifically referring to his move from Maghar to Kashi, Kabir Ji says: (O’ God, people believe that Maghar is a cursed land. But having faith in You, I went to reside in Maghar, and You pacified the torment of my mind. (Actually), I was blessed with Your sight in Maghar, and only after that I came to reside in Kashi. (2)

However, expressing his belief that living in any city makes no difference, Kabir Ji says: “(O’ God, for me) as is Maghar, so is Kashi, I have deemed (them both as) one. Since the time, I the poor one have obtained the wealth (of God’s Name, and confidence that all places created by You are equal in spiritual merit), those self-conceited ones who doubt (that You are pervading equally in all places), feel very miserable.” (3)

Describing the pain those people bear before and after death, who live with any kind of self-conceit or arrogance, Kabir Ji says: “They, who indulge in ego, (suffer such pain, as if they are being) pricked by thorns, and there is nobody to take these out. All their life, they keep crying in pain and (after death) they are consumed in deep hell.” (4)

Now stating how he has become indifferent to hell or heaven, Kabir Ji says: (O’ my friends), of what (consequences is this thought that one who dies in Kashi, goes to heaven, and the ones who dies in Maghar, goes to hell, when) the saints have rejected both. By our Guru’s grace, we won’t depend upon anybody’s mercy (to save us from hell or help us in reaching heaven).” (5)

In conclusion, Kabir Ji says: “Now I have mounted the (divine) throne and have met the God of earth. (So now) God and Kabir have become one and no one can distinguish (one from the other).” (6-3)

The message of this shabad is that we should not be driven by such superstitions as living in holy places or avoiding the cursed ones. Instead we should always live in loving fear and devotion of God, then irrespective of our lineage, social status or abode, God would grant us his blissful union.

There you have it. Kabir has settled the matter for us. It makes no difference where you die. But it makes a world of a difference as to how we live.

 

Hb Singh is a volunteer editor at Asia Samachar who had some years of active involvement with Sikh organisations in Malaysia

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2 COMMENTS

  1. If one asks any the best place to die, many will come with a great more many answers.The best place to die for one could also b the worst place to die for many others.

    The Economist published its 2015 Quality of Death Index ranking the quality and availability of palliative care in 80 countries around the world. The UK ranked best in the first index in 2010.

    The Economist’s global survey looked at factors including pain relief, spiritual and psychological support, helping patients remain active as long as possible, emotional support for patients’ families, and care “intended to neither hasten nor postpone death.”

    Australia is the 2nd best place to die.

    An important factor in the top countries’ rankings is wealth. Most of the list’s top 20 are rich Western and Asian-Pacific nations.
    New Zealand is ranked the 3rd best place to die.

    But the report notes that even the top-rated countries still fall short in providing adequate palliative care services for every citizen who needs them.
    Ireland ranked 4, and Belgium is ranked the 5th best place to die.

    It rated high on affordability, along with Australia, Denmark, Ireland and the UK. Those countries cover 80 to 100 percent of the cost of palliative care.

    “The things that make a better death are so simple,” says Ros Taylor, national director for hospice care at Hospice UK. “It’s basic knowledge about good pain control and conversations with people about the things that matter — that could transform many more deaths.”

    Taiwan is the 6th best place to die.

    The report says cultural shifts are needed even in the best of countries to help enhance the quality of life for dying patients and their families. It also calls for better palliative care training for medical staff.
    Germany came 7th and Nederlands as 8th,The U.S. is ranked the 9th best place to die.

    The U.S. was given a score of 80.8 out of a possible 100. The main negative was the high cost of care, ranking 18th on the affordability scale.

    Finally, France rounds out the top 10 best places to die.

    As more people are living longer, the report says improving the quality and availability of palliative care is becoming more

    Now given the above places of choices to die, How would a Gurduara from these countries rank?

    It is also worth noting that none of the highly spiritual Gurus demised in any Gurduara , were they NOT blessed enough?

    Thus, whether Gurduara, or a small shanty house, when death strikes, it does not choose because of place and time, or importance.Gurbani is merely a soul calming guidance, it is no passport, for better death or less painful, it is all within the hukam prescribed to one.

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