‘I’m a female, so I’m greedy’

The social system must position women as co-partners of socioeconomic growth and this must take place at the grassroot levels, argues TARANJIT KAUR


| Opinion | 2 June 2017 | Asia Samachar |

By Taranjit Kaur


“You had a full time mother, but you are giving your child a part time mother. You are just greedy, that’s what you are.”

How was I entitled to such a remark, for all I said was Sat Sri Akal to an elderly uncleji serving me langgar. Dumbstruck I was. Little did I realise at that point that my gender warrants such a comment, regardless if it is the 21st century.

Today’s social evolvements encourage women empowerment. Today, women are being redefined as co-players in supporting the larger socioeconomic growth. Clearly evident are the intensifying discussions centred on inclusivity and diversity. Globally, policies are being formed and reformed, with the aim to create an environment where merit defines worth.

Simply said, women today are more than just CEOs of the domestic household. Unfortunately, societal tagging from a cultural standpoint define women as homemakers by default, denied the right to development.

Taking a step back, are we benefitting from these changes that strive to put females on the forefront? Perhaps, not entirely as the fundamental problem still lurks as in our culture, women should either talk about recipes, the best household cleaning material or children related affairs.

Simply said, there is a dire need for mindset change in how our culture perceive women. The social system must position women as co-partners of socioeconomic growth and this must take place at the grassroot levels.

It is not just a man’s world. Such cultural shift would somewhat wear off discrimination. Let’s instill in females that they too have potentials to change the world. Let’s push women to be more analytical by giving opportunities that promote self development. Much of this begins at home. It is time inclusivity takes centerstage, where males and females are put at par.

It is high time that in our culture, we begun to acknowledge and full-heartedly appreciate that women matter, and so does their strength, skills and intelligence! In turn, from a young age, equipping our females with the tenets of independence and confidence, instead of subjecting one to gender characterisation.

Taranjit Kaur is a Kuala Lumpur based executive who gets involved in Sikh activities. 

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  1. Family has been equated as a vehicle which has two wheels and both running in unison for smoothness.
    Wife managed everything eithin the household and its responsibilities and the husband managing everything outside the house which meant earning and providing all the material needs for the family.
    Both husbands and wives provided physical needs of each other including time for social interaction. Further both provided moral and spiritual support to gor the family.
    Unfortunately some husbands did not fulfil their family obligations especially their wives by having extramarital affairs and providing more time to their friends and they used their control of money and wealth as a weapon against wives and daughters. This may have resulted in wives and mothers resulting realizing the need and importance of financial independence and to achieve this the need for education. The two world wars also gave this realization when many had to work in factories and offices to replace the men who went to wars.
    Today many women have become financially independent and thus can and do say ‘fly kite’ to the dowry minded male dominated families. Even where there are marriages including between profrssionals many husbands and/or his families may still not appreciate the wife’s contribution and may be ill treated but she may chose to dump the wayward husband.
    Now that more wives are also earning the family vehicle has two ‘earnimg’ wheels with none to manage the household which function may now be outsourced to maids. Result may be broken families-neglected children and elderly parents.
    See Bollywood movie KI AND KA.
    It may still not be too late for Sikhs and other men to change as otherwise Sikhs and men will need to get non-Sikh wives (like the Chinese) as it is also becoming a trend among women to either delay marriage or not marry at all with some going for live-in relationships where there is no permanancy and no EK JOTH DOI MOORTHI’ and that SO KYION MANDA AKHIYE JO JAMME RAJAAN as was stated on SGGS.